A message on the Year of the Mentor
In Greek mythology, “Mentor” was the son of Alcimus and a friend of Odysseus. When Odysseus left for the Trojan War, he placed Mentor in charge of his son, Telemachus. This ancient story is the origin of the term ‘Mentor’, which means trusted friend, counsellor or teacher. “The Mentor is someone who can reassure each child of his innate worth, instil values, guide curiosity, and encourage a purposeful life.” (Dr Arne Rubinstein, 2008)
At Stanmore, no better description of the role of the mentor has come across my desk, and the supporting role of a teacher mentor is crucial to the overall development of a young man. Each mentor comes with differing, yet essential caring qualities and always asks, ‘what is best for the boy?’
A good mentor is a staff member who can give fair and just acknowledgement, and offer advice when things do not go well. No boy at Newington is overlooked, or at least this is our determined goal, as the mentor guides the boy through his school life. 2015 has been rather cheekily called the ‘Year of the Mentor’ to signify that all issues go via them in order to reach a solution. In some cases, this advice has been extensive, and careful liaison with other staff was required for a positive way forward.
Another form of leadership at Newington is Peer Mentoring through Student Leadership. This is done through the Peer Support Program with our Year 11 meeting and looking after our Year 7 students, and also through our School and House Leadership Program. Our recently appointed Senior Leaders underwent a leadership training session with Mr Alan Thomson (ON 1974) from Reliance Leadership. The purpose of this session was to prepare our student leaders for mentoring students in their House or Year group. Alan introduced the leaders to the concept of student leadership with some grounding theories on how to ‘pull’ students with them. This kind of mentoring is quite demanding, as it is requires the boys to lead one’s peers as an equal rather than as subordinates.
Teamwork, having a collective vision, and commitment to serve, were some of the other topics covered in the session. As the new leaders pledged to lead by example and to support the students of the school, in fact they had already begun to put some of Mr Thomson’s teaching in action as they began designating portfolios for Sport, Music, Communication, Drama and Performing Arts.The portfolios were divided between the House Captains and Vice Captains in an attempt to better engage younger boys in their respective Houses based on the co-curricular subjects in which they participate.
This year’s leaders have identified some clear goals for the year ahead centered on the 2016 leadership motto: value you; support him; stand with her. This year’s theme focuses heavily on inclusiveness, valuing good character and diversity, and recognition of the power of service – an essential component of good mentoring and leadership. The kind of service we refer to in our motto aims to move beyond the school and into the community. It is aimed at help those less fortunate than our boys, and women. ‘Stand with her’ refers to our collective goal of shining a light on gender issues, especially in relation to domestic violence and any form of ill-treatment of women. The leadership team has made a wonderful start to the year ahead and I wish them every success with their guidance of the student body.
I am sure that we can all remember significant mentors in our lives. As adults, we can reflect on how significant these mentors have been. They were guiding lights, advice-givers, example-setters, and trusted friends who were forgiving of our mistakes. Whether it is a teaching staff mentor or student leader mentor, our hope is that every boy can find good advice, a good example, a trusted friendship, and a safe sounding board that is supportive as they face the challenges of secondary school life.
* Rubinstein, A. (2013). The making of men. Australia: Griffith Press.
Mr Bob Meakin
Deputy Head of Stanmore (Students)